Relationships are a part of life. One could even argue that relationships are one of the biggest parts of our lives. The desire for connection with another human being is literally wired into our DNA. Recent research has shown that the experience of loneliness even has negative impacts on our physical health, raising our risk for heart disease, arthritis, diabetes, dementia, etc. But I probably don’t need to spend much time convincing you that relationships are important. There is no doubt that you are impacted by them (or the lack thereof) every day.
So, we all know that relationships are important. But, I bet most of us also know that they can be incredibly complicated and difficult at times. The thing is, you don’t have to be lacking in relationships in order to experience loneliness. Many of us know the pain of feeling incredibly lonely, despite being surrounded by others or in the same room as our partner/spouse. We don’t just need proximity in our relationships. We need connection. We need to feel fully heard, seen, and understood. But we aren’t often taught how to do that well.